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So, in my last video, I discussed a blog written by Z Neutral about the 5 archetypes of unattractive men.
In her blog, she mentions, in a 6th bonus type of unattractive man – “The midlife crisis”.
This is what she wrote:
Bonus: The Mid-Life Crisis
This is a niche category, but still common nonetheless. The Mid-Life Crisis is typically an older man who may have been previously attractive in his younger years but is unaware of his budding status as a “creepy old man”; while there are ways to age gracefully, he instead tries to seek validation from young women who are at the peak of their sexual market value, thinking he still has what it takes to be Selected by them (or really, I don’t know what he’s thinking. Bless his heart.).
So, what she’s describing is the “strangeness” one feels when they observe an older guy with or attempting to pick up younger women.
And there seems to be this assertation that older guys chasing younger women is creepy. And it a lot of circumstances it can be creepy. But why is it creepy? And how do you stop it from being creepy?
So firstly, I agree, if an older guy is trying to SEEK VALIDATION from a young woman, as Z-Neutral asserts, then yes, it’s very unattractive and creepy.
Trying to seek validation from anyone is bloody unattractive because it communicates that you don’t believe you have innate value. You need someone else to tell you you’re valuable.
And an older man shouldn’t need a girl 20 years his junior to tell him how valuable he is. He shouldn’t give a shit what she thinks, no matter how pretty she is.
When an older guy tries to act and dress like a younger guy, because he thinks it’ll make him look like he has more in common with younger women, he discards all the inherent value he’s supposed to have as an older, wiser man.
They’re essentially falling into the younger girls frame, either by trying to act or look younger. For example, this includes older guys specifically going to venues they know are full of young women, like nightclubs or universities. Like why the hell are they there? As older men, they should’ve moved past the sleazy nightclub scene. Been there done that. If you what to go out for a drink, you go to a nice quiet bar or something.
Guys who try desperately to hang on to their youth by acting young send a clear message to the opposite sex that they aren’t confident or comfortable with who they are as an older man.
So, how do you make dating women half your age not look creepy? Can you make it not look creepy?
Well, yes. Quite easily. It’s quite acceptable in the right context.
As part of writing the script for this video, I watched a bunch of old movies where the male protagonists love interest was decades younger. Movies like The Sean Connery Bond movies, Last Tango in Paris with Marlon Brando, and Mutiny on The Bounty.
Why, in these particular movies, was it completely acceptable that a guy was with a much younger girl?
Well, the main element these protagonists all shared was that the woman fell into the man's world. They entered the man's frame, not the other way around.
The guy wasn’t looking for or chasing younger women, he just happened to cross paths with them while working on his purpose.
He wasn’t hitting the nightclubs, cruising for chicks. Or hanging out at the beach so he could chat up little beach bunnies.
An older man should be above and beyond all that. They should be different from younger men.
They should have a life of their own that’s established and that they’re engaged with and passionate about. They shouldn’t be looking for a young girl to fill his world with excitement and adventure. He should already have this in spades!
Ask any girl. They want a guy they can look up to and admire. An older man, who’s got his shit together, knows who he is and is comfortable in his own skin is extremely attractive to younger women, because it’s a trait the vast majority of younger guys, and a lot of older guys for that matter, don’t have yet.
This is the mindset older guys should have when approaching younger women. The girls sexual market value may be at its peak, but they have all wisdom, all the knowledge and all the resources. The guy, not the girl, holds all the cards by this stage.
Pretty girls are a dime a dozen. Confident, competent men who have their shit together financially, physically, emotionally and mentally certainly aren’t.
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